5&5 TOUCHSTONE THURSDAYS by Allison W. Gryphon
I could write a story about it, but I think these lists do the trick. The reminder. The plea. The point. Your words have enormous impact, please use them wisely.
5 OF THE WORST THINGS SAID TO ME WHILE I WAS IN TREATMENT
1. If I had cancer I would not do chemo.
The response to my sharing my choice to do chemo with a friend.
2. You shouldn’t take Tamoxifan. You could die.
The response, surprisingly from multiple people, after sharing my decision to take Tamoxifan.
3. Don’t tell everyone you have cancer. That puts bad energy out into the universe and you need good energy right now.
The response by one person to sharing my diagnosis with a group I spend time with weekly.
4. Everyone looks weird with no hair.
Upon seeing a friend for the first time after I shaved my head.
5. So cute. You look like a little alien.
Upon running into a friend and colleague in the office shortly after I shaved my head.
5 OF THE BEST THINGS SAID TO ME WHILE I WAS IN TREATMENT
1. Two days from now there will be no more cancer in your body.
This was part of an email sent by a friend two days before my mastectomy.
2. This is great. Now we can all see how beautiful your eyes are.
A reaction by a friend and colleague to my first day at work with a shaved head.
3. I hope if I ever have cancer I do it as well as you do.
4. I didn’t know you had cancer, I just thought you were a cool chick with a shaved head.
5. I think you being open about this makes all of us better and nicer people.
A colleague at the office.
THE TOP 5 STAND OUT, LAUGH OUT LOUD THINGS SAID TO ME WHILE I WAS IN TREATMENT
1. Do we get to vote on what size boobs you’re getting?
2. The doctor I’m sending you is hot. He’s so hot that people forget what he’s saying. So do their friends and family. You have to be sure to take notes.
3. I didn’t need all of the fat I took from your thighs so I put it some back.
From my reconstructive surgeon who used fat from my body to reconstruct my breasts.
4. Can I braid that for you?
An offer from my Physical Therapist. Due to my lymphnode dissection I was not permitted to shave under my right arm for months. As fate would have it, once I began chemo that was the last bit of hair to fall out. It hung in there for quite some time.
5. Are you a superhero now?
From my colleague’s 5-year-old son the first time he saw me with a shaved head. My answer to him was, “yes.”